Hi. I'm Donna J Davis, and I understand.
"Stress, anxiety and depression are caused when we are living to please others." ~Pablo Coelho
I am a living testimonial of how true Mr. Coelho's statement is. After decades of health issues, I know now that my fear of hurting or displeasing others (professionally and personally) created so much stress.
All that stress eventually led to full-blown burnout, which I know was a major factor in why I got sick -- repeatedly. I believe that health challenges are wake-up calls. I learned so much from all my health challenges. I have gone from living with debilitating stress and complete burnout to feeling healthy, empowered, and productive again.
To help you understand my journey, here's a brief description of the road that led me here.
"You have cancer."
I have heard that diagnosis five times and each time I looked for the deeper metaphysical meaning behind the disease.
I chose both traditional and non-traditional methods at different points on this journey. I knew that cancer was much more than a physical medical issue – it was also a spiritual, mental, and emotional one.
I learned the power of forgiveness, gratitude, the power of food and positive thoughts and action. I regained my energy and my health.
And the cycle repeats
The problem was that I would take care of myself when I got sick. I did what was immediately necessary to help my body heal. I made sure I got good rest. I ate clean foods. I exercised. I let go of resentments. I got well again and then went back to my normal routine.
Except...my normal routine wasn’t healthy for me. I would slip back into my old pattern of doing everything for everyone else.
I had accepted a new job that I loved at first, but I was then asked (expected) to take on more and more responsibility. Even though I refused some of the requested duties, I somehow ended up doing them anyway.
I was afraid of hurting someone else’s feeling. I was worried about what they would think if I said “no.” I didn’t know how to speak up for myself. I was not able to set and hold firm to my boundaries.
Add to that the fact that I was living in a house filled with angry people. My kids were then teenagers with their own problems. One got into drugs at the age of 14 and the other is gay and was being seriously bullied at school (and did not tell me until years later). My husband was experiencing high pain and severe insomnia and I was trying to make everyone happy.
I thought I was doing an okay job of handling the stress, but I was not. With everything going on, I fell back into old behaviors and I was not taking care of myself. I needed help and I didn't ask for it.
After several years, I heard that the breast cancer had returned. Is it any wonder I got sick again?
Hearing that again rattled me. I had made so many great changes before, and yet the cancer came back. I knew without a doubt, that stress was the most significant factor in that recurrence of cancer. I knew then that if I did not learn how to manage stress that cancer would win, and that was not an option.
So I do what I do best -- problem solve. I learned both common and unique ways to avoid burnout and release stress. I found some amazing supplements that have been life-changing. My favorite helps lower cortisol (the stress hormone), and others support my adrenals, and help me sleep better.
It took me a while, but I am at the top of my priority list.
Lessons learned from flight attendants
Throughout all of this, I learned many lessons, but my #1 reminder is to put my oxygen mask on first.
When you are on an airline flight, you hear instructions from the flight attendants. They tell us, “In the case of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first. Then assist those with you.”
It's simple, right? If you don't put on your oxygen mask during an emergency, it's impossible to help anyone else. I had been so exhausted and depleted, I wasn't able to be the person, the mother, the wife, the entrepreneur, or the friend that I wanted to be.
I am not perfect, but I'm really happy with where my life is at today. I run two busy businesses and yet I no longer live with chronic stress. I tune into my body, my mind, and my spirit and do my best to honor what I need.
How can I help you?
My passion is helping others with proven stress solutions so they can feel empowered, productive, and healthy again. I have over 30 years in the business world, and I specialize in helping to simply, organize, and streamline work.
I am also a Certified Health and Life Coach specializing in reducing stress and increasing energy. Most importantly...I lived with burnout and chronic stress for years. I found solutions that work, and I am healthier and happier than I ever dreamed I could be.
Being in constant stress is no way to live. It's also a recipe for serious illness.
Are you dealing with high stress, fatigue, or burnout? Are you feeling overwhelmed with all your responsibilities? Are you ready to experience a different way?
Start by requesting my free ebook, "Burnout: Know the Warning Signs + 7 Solutions to Help Today!" I share both short-term and long-term options to help you make small shifts that lead to major improvements.
If you feel stuck or have questions and would like to discuss some possibilities, please contact me. I am here to help.
Donna J Davis
Certified Health + Life Coach