Has the overwhelm and the constant busyness of life zapped those vibrant, passionate dreams you once had? Can you even remember what it is that you wanted? Is the tug still there, or is it buried under all your “To Do’s” and responsibilities?

Is comfort chipping away at your dreams?

Kovie Biakolo wrote the following, and I want to share all of this with you because I believe it so beautifully expresses why we must not abandon our dreams. When we do, it changes us. It saddens our soul.

Biakolo says, “In our naivete, we mistake comfort for fulfillment and happiness. And in our effort to be as comfortable as possible, we start chipping away at our dreams. We tell ourselves that once we get enough money or enough experience or meet that right person or move to that right place, then and only then, will we give ourselves the chance. We are always looking for the perfect time to pursue our dreams and tomorrow always seems like the perfect time. Because tomorrow never dies. That is, of course, until it does.

Are you settling for okay?

“Look around you and look inside you. How many people do you think are settling? I will tell you a hell of a lot of people. People are settling every day into okay relationships and okay jobs and an okay life. And do you know why? Because okay is comfortable. Okay pays the bills and gives a warm bed at night and allows one to go out with co-workers on a Friday evening to enjoy happy hour. But do you know what okay is not? Okay isn’t thrilling, it isn’t passion, it isn’t the reason you get up every day; it isn’t life-changing or unforgettable. Okay is not the reason you go to bed late and wake up early. Okay is not the reason you risk absolutely everything you’ve got just for the smallest chance that something absolutely amazing could happen.

Dreams have expiration dates

She continues, “You might not achieve what you set out to achieve when you pursue your dreams; there is a very real likelihood it won’t happen. But don’t you want to give yourself the chance while you can? Because even though you might not want to give up on your dreams, if you put it off long enough, your dreams could give up on you. Because dreams are not perpetual; they are temporary. Like many things in life, they have expiration dates. And when they expire all you might have left is your comfort. But you may find that your comfort will soon start to resemble regret. And as I’m sure you’ve heard before: regret is eternal.”

Powerful, right? I’m 65 as I write this I am headed down a new path. I have gone through cancer five times and I know I’m still here because I have work to do. I have made so many mistakes in my life, but I learned from them. I certainly don’t have this all done perfectly, but I am so much better than I was. And I want to help others who want more. Do you want to have more energy? Do you want to sleep better? Do you want to dance more? Do you want to travel?

What are you settling for? What do you want? We can still do so much. It may mean you need some things to change. You may need to learn how to release all that stress. You may choose to learn some new skills, or to make doable changes to your diet and lifestyle. You may choose to surround yourself with more supportive people.

The beauty is YOU CAN CHOOSE. You can create something better.

If you still have that tug to do and be and have the life you used to dream of, but you don’t know where to start, please contact me. It would be my honor to listen to you share your dreams.

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